Dallin Oaks confuses me on prayer
I know this quote is long but I have read it many times trying to fully understand it's impact on me personally. I thought I would share it.
"We do not always receive inspiration or revelation when we request it. Sometimes we are delayed in the receipt of revelation, and sometimes we are left to our own judgment. We cannot force spiritual things. It must be so. Our life's purpose to obtain experience and to develop faith would be frustrated if our Heavenly Father directed us in every act, even in every important act. We must make decisions and experience the consequences in order to develop self-reliance and faith.
"Even in decisions we think very important, we sometimes receive no answer to our prayers. This does not mean that our prayers have not been heard. It only means that we have prayed about a decision which, for one reason or another, we should make without guidance by revelation. Perhaps we have asked for guidance in choosing between alternatives that are equally acceptable or equally unacceptable. I suggest that there is not a right and wrong to every question. To many questions, there are only two wrong answers or two right answers...
"Similarly, the Spirit of the Lord is not likely to give us revelations on matters that are trivial...I believe the Lord expects us to use the intelligence and experience He has given us to make these kinds of choices."
So how do we tell which choices to make on our own, which ones to get God's help on, and which ones even when we ask for help that we'll get it or not?
Prayer, and answers to prayers can be really frustrating sometimes.